October 20, 2014
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forgottenawesome:

Do You Love Someone With Depression?
If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.
Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.
1. Help them keep clutter at bay.
When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)
2. Fix them a healthy meal.
Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing them to go deeper into their depression. Help your loved one keep their body healthy, and their mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.
3.Get them outside.
 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.
4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.
If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.
5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.
Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.
6. Hug them.
Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.
7. Laugh with them.
Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of themselves. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.
8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.
Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.
9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.
A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”
10.Remind them why you love them.
Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.
(via The Darling Bakers)

More people need to know this.

This is so incredibly important. I’ve seen people with depression ostracized so many times, and I cannot stress how much it means to each and every person I’ve tried to reach out to after whatever “falling-outs” they’ve had due to depression. Remember to always be compassionate and kind to all friends like this, because you never know what they’re going through.

animedavidbowie:

unrecognizedpotential:

forgottenawesome:

Do You Love Someone With Depression?

If you have a partner or are close to someone who struggles with depression, you may not always know how to show them you love them. One day they may seem fine, and the next they are sad, distant and may push you away. It is important that you know that as a person who is close to them and trusted by them, you can help your friend or partner have shorter, less severe bouts of depression. Mental illness is as real as physical illness (it is physical actually, read more about that here) and your partner needs you as much as they would need to be cared for if they had the flu.

Your relationship may seem one-sided during these times, but by helping your partner through a very difficult and painful affliction, you are strengthening your relationship and their mental health in the long term.

1. Help them keep clutter at bay.

When a person begins spiraling into depression, they may feel like they are slowing down while the world around them speeds up. The mail may end up in stacks, dishes can pile up in the sink, laundry may go undone as the depressed person begins to feel more and more overwhelmed by their daily routine and unable to keep up. By giving your partner some extra help sorting mail, washing dishes or using paper plates and keeping chaos in check in general, you’ll be giving them (and yourself) the gift of a calm  environment. (I’m a fan of the minimalist movement because of this, you can read more about that here.)

2. Fix them a healthy meal.

Your partner may do one of two things when they are in a depressed state. They may eat very little, or they may overeat. In either case, they may find that driving through a fast food restaurant or ordering a pizza online is just easier than fixing a meal. Eating like this, or neglecting to eat will only degrade your partner’s health, causing them to go deeper into their depression. Help your loved one keep their body healthy, and their mind will follow. This is a great article that talks about the “Brain Diet” which can help the symptoms of depression, and this article talks about how our modern diet could contribute to the recent rise in depression. Here is a recipe for a trail mix that is quick to make and has mood-boosting properties.

3.Get them outside.

 The benefits of getting outside for a depressed person are huge. And it is possibly the last thing on earth your partner will want to do. Take them to be somewhere in nature. Pack a picnic and lie in the sun, take a leisurely hike or plant a garden. Being barefoot in the dirt, or “earthing” helps ground the body and reverse the effects of living in a world of emf’s, and digging in soil can actually act as an antidepressant, as a strain of bacterium in soil, Mycobacterium vaccae, triggers the release of seratonin, which in turn elevates mood and decreases anxiety. Sunshine increases Vitamin D production which can help alleviate depression. My friend Elizabeth wrote an excellent post about Vitamin D and its link to depression here.  For more information about other sources of Vitamin D, this is a great post as well as this.

4. Ask them to help you understand what they’re feeling.

If your partner is able to articulate what they are going through, it will help them and you better understand what you are dealing with, and may give insight into a plan of action for helping your partner. Also, feeling alone is common for a depressed person and anything that combats that feeling will help alleviate the severity and length of the depression.

5. Encourage them to focus on self-care.

Depressed people often stop taking care of themselves. Showering, getting haircuts, going to the doctor or dentist, it’s all just too hard, and they don’t deserve to be well taken care of anyway in their minds. This can snowball quickly into greater feelings of worthlessness since “Now I’m such a mess, no one could ever love me”. Help your loved one by being proactive. Tell them “I’m going to do the dishes, why don’t you go enjoy a bubble bath?” can give them the permission they won’t give themselves to do something normal, healthy and self-loving.

6. Hug them.

Studies show that a sincere hug that lasts longer than 20 seconds can release feel-good chemicals in the brain and elevate the mood of the giver and receiver. Depressed people often don’t want to be touched, but a sincere hug with no expectation of anything further can give your partner a lift.

7. Laugh with them.

Telling a silly joke, watching a comedy or seeing a stand up comedian will encourage your partner to laugh in spite of themselves. Laughing releases endorphins and studies show can actually counteract symptoms of depression and anxiety.

8. Reassure them that you can handle their feelings.

Your partner may be feeling worthless, angry and even guilty while they are depressed. They may be afraid that they will end up alone because no one will put up with their episodes forever. Reassure them that you are in the relationship for the long haul and they won’t scare you away because they have an illness.

9. Challenge their destructive thoughts.

A depressed person’s mind can be a never-ending loop of painful, destructive thoughts. “I’m unlovable, I’m a failure, I’m ugly, I’m stupid”. Challenge these untruths with the truth. “You’re not unlovable, I love you. You aren’t a failure, here are all the things you’ve accomplished.”

10.Remind them why you love them.

Look at pictures of happy times you’ve had together. Tell them your favorite things about them. Reminisce about your relationship and all the positive things that have happened, and remind your partner that you love them and they will get through this.

(via The Darling Bakers)

More people need to know this.

This is so incredibly important. I’ve seen people with depression ostracized so many times, and I cannot stress how much it means to each and every person I’ve tried to reach out to after whatever “falling-outs” they’ve had due to depression. Remember to always be compassionate and kind to all friends like this, because you never know what they’re going through.

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September 17, 2014

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July 6, 2014
Eagle Twin - The Feather Tipped the Serpent’s Scale
Bam, sometimes you just need some Salt Lake City in your ears. Salt Lake City has some of my favorite hardcore and metal bands. Eagle Twin much like Subrosa is very dark and sludgy. Southern Lord doesn’t hold back on the housing either. It’s a double gatefold with 180 gram vinyl. The layout is fantastic. You get what you pay for with Southern Lord releases. This is the perfect LP to put on and paint to, it really helps get out some of those dark inner feelings. 

Eagle Twin - The Feather Tipped the Serpent’s Scale

Bam, sometimes you just need some Salt Lake City in your ears. Salt Lake City has some of my favorite hardcore and metal bands. Eagle Twin much like Subrosa is very dark and sludgy. Southern Lord doesn’t hold back on the housing either. It’s a double gatefold with 180 gram vinyl. The layout is fantastic. You get what you pay for with Southern Lord releases. This is the perfect LP to put on and paint to, it really helps get out some of those dark inner feelings. 

July 6, 2014
Mutoid Man - Helium Head
This has been on my list for awhile. It’s very catchy face melting metal. That’s all! Just listen to it.

Mutoid Man - Helium Head

This has been on my list for awhile. It’s very catchy face melting metal. That’s all! Just listen to it.

July 6, 2014
Chuck Ragan - Gold Country
Gold Country is probably my favorite Chuck Ragan album.  It has its twain while keeping it folk. There’s nothing I dislike more than country pop. Glory and Done and Done are two of my favorite Chuck songs. It has a beautiful blend of folk with his punk rock side. The steel guitar parts are done tasteful and the harmonica parts are even better. It’s safe to say i’ll have Gold Country in my collection for quite awhile. Thanks Chuck!

Chuck Ragan - Gold Country

Gold Country is probably my favorite Chuck Ragan album.  It has its twain while keeping it folk. There’s nothing I dislike more than country pop. Glory and Done and Done are two of my favorite Chuck songs. It has a beautiful blend of folk with his punk rock side. The steel guitar parts are done tasteful and the harmonica parts are even better. It’s safe to say i’ll have Gold Country in my collection for quite awhile. Thanks Chuck!

July 6, 2014
Entombed - Wolverine Blues. Sometimes I watch terrible comic book movies. My girl friend went to Scotland for the summer and I decided what the hell, lets watch some Hugh Jackman. Little did I know this would bring me good luck. Although, Entombed’s Wolverine Blues probably doesn’t have much to do with Hugh Jackman’s terrible Wolverine movie I was surprised to find this bad boy. I know there’s been a lot of speculation about if and when this would ever be repressed. To my surprise I found it at Amoeba Records San Francisco. Way to go guys, i’m a happy camper. This album paved the way for many hardcore and metal bands. It’s heavy and catchy with thick bass tones and sludgy drums to make it beefy, yet not boring. 

Entombed - Wolverine Blues. Sometimes I watch terrible comic book movies. My girl friend went to Scotland for the summer and I decided what the hell, lets watch some Hugh Jackman. Little did I know this would bring me good luck. Although, Entombed’s Wolverine Blues probably doesn’t have much to do with Hugh Jackman’s terrible Wolverine movie I was surprised to find this bad boy. I know there’s been a lot of speculation about if and when this would ever be repressed. To my surprise I found it at Amoeba Records San Francisco. Way to go guys, i’m a happy camper. This album paved the way for many hardcore and metal bands. It’s heavy and catchy with thick bass tones and sludgy drums to make it beefy, yet not boring. 

July 5, 2014
"Women are involved in hardcore for the same reasons as every other human. Anyone who thinks women are here “for the wrong reasons” should take a step back and think about what men in hardcore are like. You don’t get into to hardcore because you’re a good looking, well-adjusted, and successful member of society. We’re all fucked up. You’re not a catch. Women are not flocking to hardcore shows to meet you."

Angela Owens

Full interview: HERE

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May 31, 2014
Bane’s Current Tour Will Not Be Their Last

propertyofzack:

Bane released their final album, Don’t Wait Up, last week, but the band wants to ensure fans that they haven’t decided to quit touring yet. Their current US tour will not be their last. Read a statement from the band below after the jump.

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May 11, 2014

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April 21, 2014
ryanrussell:

theclearlydope:

Slice dance!
ruinedchildhood:

I still do this when I eat pizza.

ryanrussell:

theclearlydope:

Slice dance!

ruinedchildhood:

I still do this when I eat pizza.

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